(Written December 2025)

Lately life has just been moving so fast. Since June, 2025 it has been an absolute whirlwind of finishing university, which was also a strange situation—long story. With everything changing so quickly, it’s been difficult to really focus long enough to put out a blog post that I’m happy with. It’s a shame because I’ve enjoyed working on this blog, even though it hasn’t been incredibly popular. I’d love to have more interaction on here, and to put out higher quality essays and think-pieces but I’m starting to accept it’s just not viable for me right now, nor is it one of my top priorities.

I’ve been thinking about how I prioritise my life a lot these last few weeks. In such a transitional stage of my life, it’s easy to lose sight of my goals and get sidetracked from accomplishing all that I hope for. Comparisons are easy to get lost in when you haven’t got your north star guiding you, so I’m doing a lot to keep my mind on target. It’s been especially important to remind myself that everyone’s priorities are so different. Having a fantastic wardrobe, amazing Instagram feed, and luxury holidays all sound great, but they can’t be my top priority the same way they are for others—at least for now. I’m learning to accept that for myself and remember that it can (and hopefully will!) change soon.

So, what’s changed? Just about everything really. I graduated from university, albeit in one of the most anticlimactic ways of all time. I thought I had another semester to complete, but when I went to log in, found that my accounts weren’t working because of an email titled ‘Congratulations on your graduation!’ Hmm. Anyway, without any study to complete, I got a full-time job and we’ve moved houses. There are new pressures to contend with, financially, mentally, and of course creatively. With so much energy expended on these other necessities, I haven’t had as much time, energy, or inspiration to continue writing. It’s a shame, because writing is definitely the one thing I want at the top of my priority list, and I am still doing my best to keep it there.

I’m more motivated than ever to keep working on my manuscripts because I now have an amazing literary agent who has been so helpful and encouraging. I want to be a traditionally published author, and I want to get this story out there—so I have to get it done. I’ve set my goals and systems in place, so it’s getting there bit by bit. Even small progress is better than nothing, but it is a little discouraging to see how little I can do nowadays. Running a household is hardly a cakewalk, so hats off to the writers (especially the mums!) who do this all so well. I’m learning to enjoy the process each day, even when it’s much slower than I would like.

Apparently detaching yourself from the outcome is the most important step to success, as you remove the fear of failure. I’m still processing that too and learning to focus on the small wins. Still, part of me is hoping that this is the ‘before’ part of my journey, right before all my dreams come true. Hey, one can hope, right? Anyway, all the best lovelies. Let’s see if I can get some of that spark back…